The Impact of Community on Relational Ability by Dwayne Castle

The Impact of Community on Relational Ability by Dwayne Castle

The Impact of Community on Relational Ability by Dwayne Castle

Over the course of my life, personally and professionally, I’ve had my share of ups and downs- physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and in whatever other ways you can possibly experience ups and downs. I’ve been there.

And I’m not alone in this. As humans we are all prone to the realities of life on this earth and as they say, the struggle is real. And that’s what I want to talk to you about in this short video.

I’ve looked back at those times in my life where I was hurting or frustrated or overwhelmed, and too many of those times I had taken that hurt and frustration out on the people around me when some of those people might actually have been part of the solution to my issues.

As I matured, I started to realize that I had been relying solely on myself to get through whatever my struggle happened to be. This was silly because I had a community. I had family and I had friends. I had work friends and church friends. I had older friends and younger. Long time friends and newer friends. But I was choosing to go through my struggles, alone.

I have spheres of influence and of impact. And I’m in the other peoples spheres as well. I found this awesome thing that happens when I put myself out there and exhibit a bit of transparency. When I share with people what’s going on in my life, I find that often those people have something that helps me to get through.

Sometimes it’s kind words. Or laughter. Sometimes its wisdom based on a similar experience they’ve had. Sometimes it’s no words at all, just their presence- a willingness to sit and listen and its amazing how often that helps lift whatever my burden may be.  

As I get older, I find that I’m that person for many of them. They know they can trust me because I’ve trusted them, and I can offer words of encouragement or wisdom or a listening ear.

My Relationally Driven tip of the week is this- don’t do life alone. Do it in community. Find like minded individuals that are where you want to be or are heading in that direction. Do life together.

And as you do, your relational ability improves. Your connections with family, co-workers, even customers improve because you’re not walking around in that hurt and frustration. You’re not taking things out on others. You are able to better add value to others, making you more giver than taker.

Take an inventory of the people in your life and keep your eyes and ears open for opportunities to expand your sphere. Maybe you’ll find some of those people as you’re going about your job. Or perhaps in a networking group, or the gym, or at church. I’ve found them in all those places.

Well, not at the gym. I don’t do the gym. But my point is that I don’t do life alone. I do it in community and living that way is so much better than going solo.

If what I’m sharing resonates with you, but you don’t know how to take those first steps, I can help. Click the “schedule a free appointment” link and lets talk about it.

I’m Dwayne Castle, Connecting Your Dots with this Relationally Driven tip of the week. Thanks for checking it out.