Leading Effectively by Avoiding False Assumptions by Dwayne Castle
LEADING EFFECTIVELY BY AVOIDING FALSE ASSUMPTIONS
John Maxwell once said, “If you think you’re leading, but nobody is following, you’re just taking a walk.”
I want to talk to you today in this Relationally Driven tip of the week about the idea of leading people in a way that’s effective.
We have these assumptions about people that we are leading, or attempting to lead. We assume that they come with all of the skills that are necessary to do their jobs. They might have the technical skills but we also assume that they know how to work well with others, that they know how to get along, they know how to communicate, they know how to cope with life.
It’s understandable why many of those assumptions would be there, because you may have these skills. But the issue is that much of the world doesn’t have those skills, because the drama, trauma, and crises of life have put so many people in survival mode. And because they are in survival mode, they don’t know any other way.
It’s not that they are being malicious or trying to undermine you. They aren’t trying to NOT follow you, or anything along those lines. What it means is that they are in a different place than you, and if you are the one that is leading them, here is your Relationally Driven tip: lead your people from where they are, not where you wish they were.
If you can connect with people on a personal level, a very real human level, you’re going to get so much further ahead. But if you continue to operate from those false assumptions you are going to hinder your mission, get and stay frustrated, and bang your head against the wall.
Lead your people from where they are, not from where you wish they were and watch your results change. If you need some help figuring out how to do that, let me know and we can talk it over.
I’m Dwayne Castle and I’m Connecting Your Dots with this Relationally Driven tip of the week.