I've Been Everywhere, Man (and the grass is all the same) by Dwayne Castle

I've Been Everywhere, Man (and the grass is all the same) by Dwayne Castle

I miss green grass. It seems that when its not covered by snow, it’s a nasty looking, water logged, muddy brown sog. In the summer, it’s weed infested and patchy; I must have about 7 different kinds of grass in my yard and I’ve got moles. My yard is a mess.

I’ve moved around lots in my close to 50 years. I’ve lived in large cities and smaller towns. I’ve lived in west Texas, next to the beach in Virginia, and currently in the Heart of Ohio. At last count, I’ve visited the cities and towns of over 30 US States, plus many in Europe, Asia, Africa, and South America. I’ve met people from every state in this country and from many parts of the world, too; people from any number of religious, ethnic, cultural, and socioeconomic backgrounds.

Every school I’ve ever attended every job I’ve ever worked, and every place I’ve ever been, I’ve heard from someone the equivalent of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence. No matter what city, state, or country a person is from it seems that too many believe they would be better off if they lived “anywhere but here.”

But here is the deal, it’s not true. The grass isn’t greener elsewhere. Okay, that may not be completely true. I look around and sometimes see that my neighbors’ yards are much greener than my own, but I also realize that they’ve been spending their time, energy and resources to get it that way. They fertilize it at the right time, they water and mow and use the edger to give it that crisp, clean look. Sometimes, they even get professional help to come out and take care of it for them. No wonder their grass is greener, they've invested the most into its care and nurture.

When you start thinking that life isn’t quite what you were hoping for and that it would be better “if only” you lived elsewhere or that because of circumstances “this is as good as it will ever get,” take some time to consider the figurative grass in your life. Are you investing in the upkeep? Are you giving your energy and resources to healthy growth? Is it worth considering asking a professional to give you a hand?

Wherever you go, there you are. Unless you cultivate a healthy view of yourself and of others it doesn’t matter where you go, you won't be happy with the view within your borders. Probably worse than that is that other people are going to be robbed of the benefit of a cultivated you. However, when you determine to change your approach to the people you encounter daily and to the way that you view yourself, you are well on your way to having the lawn that others envy. When you recognize that both you and those you encounter are worth investing in, you will find that where you are is a great place to be no matter what season in which you find yourself.

Thanks for reading this post today. I hope it helped give you a bit of a perspective change. If you would like some help changing your approach to life, let me know; that's what I do. Please feel free to contact me by email at contact@relationallydriven.com.  

ABOUT THE AUTHORDwayne Castle is the owner of Relationally Driven- a performance coaching venture which exists to help businesses and individuals improve the soft-skills necessary to grow their spheres of influence, improve employee retention, increase their bottom lines, and realize their dreams. He recently published his first book, The Relationally Driven Approach and is currently working on book two in The Relationally Driven Series.